Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Laurie's Questions

Laurie and I send questions back and forth to learn more about each other and about ourselves - here are some of my answers:

1. In the perfect world I would be working at a market research firm doing analysis - or doing forecasting - somewhere that I could look at data (already collected) and make decisions about it! As in, sell more of this, advertise more to this demographic, stop this area as it's not profitable etc. That's really what I would love to do. I am happy where I am living, and living with Dominic. So I guess the only thing I wished right now is that I was already working. I really don't like having such inconsistency in my life (I can't imagine if I had graduated in May without a job!! goodness) ... I'd even be happy starting at Accenture already and just getting that going - and hopefully loving it. I'm happy in Colorado these days - although I don't expect to stay here forever. But at this point it's just easier here - know people - having family - that network is already established. And I love my apt! :) I do wish we had a cute cozy house though - but the apt thing is fun to experience.

2. I don't think I feel 22 at all...maybe 28...as in mentally a little more ready to settle down than normal 22 year olds, wanting children and to start that life. I want to be at that point where I know what I want to do and am working towards that job. I don't like being new to something, and that is all this post-graduate feeling is. But of course I am pretty carefree these days (minus my crazy addiction to worrying about money/jobs/etc) but it is nice that I am able to relax.

3. If I had a million dollars I would sit around and listen to people's stories. Why they tick. Who influenced them. The things that bother them. The path their lives have taken and where they want it to go. And why. And their personal beliefs and why. ETC. I really think I should become a counselor/psychologist/psychiatrist in my later life. I would do it for no money. Anything to surround myself with those amazing stories - everyone has them, they just need someone to give them the time to listen.

Another Set:

1. I am so beyond passionate about ending child and domestic abuse in our society. I feel like it comes from emotional stress as a child, and that comes from bad parenting, it's just a vicious cycle. I wish some people weren't able to have children because they just destroy them, emotionally, physically, psychologically. I've noticed parents show their love through material things and that is extremely unhealthy! I want to help women get out of dangerous situations, get their children out of those situations, teach men that they need to find another way to communicate their frustrations. There are so many healthy ways to "blow off steam" than hitting a woman or child. I wish men were more communicative and emotional, I honestly think that society has conditioned men to push away those feelings, and thus they never really deal with those emotions and then don't know how to communicate it. Anywho, the moral is, I can see myself becoming involved with a group that helps alleviate domestic abuse.

2. Things that make me feel better...music would probably be first. For as long as I can remember, music has been there to cheer me up. Not necessarily the lyrics (although sometimes) but more of the passion that comes through the sound just fills my body with joy. Listening to music will always be how I make myself feel better about something.

Things that other people can do to help - just talk to me about whatever's going on. Usually half way through the conversation I'll realize how silly it is and start to feel better and change the subject to something more positive. Hearing about other people's lives will also cause me to get excited (or at least forget about what's going on with me).

Crying is something else I do to make myself feel better. Some people think that crying isn't a good thing (and that I'm 'overreacting') but in reality it's the way I deal with things, let them release from my body. I generally feel better after a good cry. After that hard bawling, the tears slowly dry and the world is a little brighter. It's extremely therapeutic for me.


I Would Die Without...

1. Music
2. Mental stimulation via discussion
3. Passion - in myself and seeing it in other
4. Challenges

Music calms me down. Excites me. Connects me with others. Makes me cry. Soothes my emotions. Makes me not feel alone. Helps my soul.

Having discussions that broaden my horizons, teach me one more thing, challenge me on one idea, are what makes my world go 'round.

Speaks for itself. Without it I'm lost.

Constantly being challenged to become a better person and to make others better is what keeps me going some days. Why I do this or that. Why you do this or that. The more I understand about myself the more interesting it is to see how I function...and WHY.

That's all.